Do you prefer that people shoot straight with you or carefully temper their words? Why?

Joanne's FAVORITE answer:
I prefer the carefully chosen words because I am a weak-spined little nancyboy who get's all sensitive when people are too aggressive in their style ofcriticism... my panties get all bunched up... especially the lacy ones. they go up my ass...

Joanne's answer:
As emotionally stable as I am, I do think I'm pretty sensitive to criticism...so ya, for the most part, I'm gonna need people to temper their words. Even better, if someone has something to say that is going to spoil one of my well-constructed positive illusions, I'd really prefer they just don't say anything at all - especially because most likely, I did not even ask for their opinion! That being said - in the rare case that I *do* actually ask for someone's opinion, or someone has something to say that directly affects our friendship/relationship, I don't want to hear bullshit. I want you to shoot straight...with maybe only a *little* sugar coating. =)

And the other answers!

1. I'd much rather people shoot straight with me because no matter how awful the news is, I rather know the truth than be led to know and believe something else. Welcome, by the way, to some of my relationships. If someone doesn't like me and fakes it just because they don't want to hurt my feelings - then that pisses me off even more. It makes me feel that they weren't truthful with me about ANYTHING. Hell, if you can't be honest about that, what can you be honest about? Ok, I answered too much. Sorry.

2. As much as shooting straight can hurt at times, I would much rather deal with what is rather than what isn't real. Shoot straight w/me or not at all. Feelings be damned.

3. I like to be talked to straight! When one gets that you can believe that it is the truth. At least most of the time. When softening it up sometimes its borderline truth and I cannot deal with prefabrications and exaggerations.

4. I prefer that people shoot straight with me. I prefer this because of the fact that I will shoot straight with people. Sometimes even to the point of being called "aggressive". Those of you that have seen that side of me need no further comment. I am the type of person, at times, that if you don't want to hear my opinion, because you know that you won't like it, then just don't ask me. I will make your worries come true, you won't like my answer. Also, if I think that you knew how I would respond before you even asked me, then I will give my answer in an even more aggressive way. Once again, those of you who know me....enough said. In all fairness though, I give what I expect in return. If I ask you a dumb question, then I expect a dumb answer. If I ask you a smart remark question, then I expect a smart remark answer. It is only fair.

5. I'm a straight shooter (with tact), and prefer folks to be the same with me.

6. Definitely straight shooter - no room for interpretation and I much prefer to KNOW the truth rather than THINK I do.

7. I like people to shoot straight with me. Of course, I would rather not have someone be unnecessarily harsh with me - but, I don't like it if I can sense that someone is "managing" me, or if people are condescending to me. I'm an intelligent adult. Let's not waste a lot of time beating about the bush.

8. Most of my friends would probably say that they feel the need to temper a little bit with me because I have a slightly thin skin. I get ego-bruised and when I do i think I'm very transparent about it. But really I'd prefer people to shoot straight and I'll just deal with my reaction myself. I don't know why other people feel so responsible for what other people's totally subjective/unpredictable reaction will be to what they say. As long as your intent is not malicious, just give it to me straight.

9. Shoot straight. If I ask for a straight answer that is what I expect. Easier to deal with it head on.