If you were to submit a question to a relationship/love/dating/sex advice column, what question would you ask?

Joanne's FAVORITE answer:
Well Dr. X, if you must have a question, here you go. Last night my wife clearly wanted some sweet lovin down by the fire, but she wouldn't just say it... I, of course, had lots of work to do and was about to go write a test while she was going to go to bed early, but she looked at me with the googly eyes and angled her body in ways suggesting that something was maybe, but not definitely, desired. Now of course she didn't just ask me if I was interested in any way, but waited for me to ask... if she wants some nookie, why can't she just say so? Why the hell am I expected to have to read her body language and infer what she is thinking (read: read her mind)? She's a very independent and modern woman who never has problems speaking her mind, but she has a major problem committing to the invitation or request for the love-making... is it just a fear of rejection? (Because that is just silly... as her husband I've NEVER rejected her, and she really has nothing to fear in the rejection region (p<.05...)) And she says *I*have the communication problem! P.S. Damn stat humor... I'm a total geek...

Joanne's answer:
Dear Dr. G: I am a fun, educated, and successful single woman who has been doing the internet dating scene for quite some time now. I have moderate success on the dates I go on - and by that, I mean that the guy and I usually have a fun time, it usually ends with some degree of making out, and there is usually a 2nd date (or at least a couple of post-first-date phone conversations). Now, because I am a pretty independent and assertive person by nature, I do tend to be somewhat of the "aggressor" in the dating scene - I usually send the first email, I usally offer up my phone number first, and I have no problem suggesting that we meet up for the 2nd date. I must say, I'm very comfortable in the this role and its just part of my personality to go after things that I'm interested in and not sit around and wait for others to take action. Now, like most females, I am not adverse to the idea of having a "serious relationship" with someone -- but somewhat unlike most females...because I'm new to the city (with the possibility of moving to a new city within the year)...I'm also perfectly open to the possibility of keeping the dating/the relationship on the casual side or even just hanging out as friends. However, almost every guy I go out with seems to be concerned that I am wanting/expecting something very 'serious' or 'long term' and gets scared off by this...even though I often explicitly tell them otherwise. So, my question is this: how do I communicate to these guys that I'm not looking to marry them after only the first or second date? Should I be less assertive/"play hard to get"...even though I don't enjoy doing that and it is really not who I am?

And the other answers:

1. So why are Men from Mars and Women from Venus?

2. The question that always is in the back of my mind when I read advice columns is, "Why are *you* qualified to give *me* advice?"

3. How do I get my partner to see things my way?