How do you handle anger?

Joanne's FAVORITE answer:
Apparently, when I get angry I kick holes in my wall. If anyone knows how to patch up a one-foot square hole, let me know!

Joanne's answer:
I don't think I get angry all that much, I mean I think I'm a pretty low-key, tolerant person...though I do often expect a lot of people and I can sometimes get mad when my expectations are not met...plus, of course, if someone gets mad at me and I don't think its justified, I'll be mad at them for getting mad at me. How do I handle it? Hmmmmm...a popular response is it to get really quiet/silent and/or avoid the person all together, almost like I am punishing them by taking away my attention. And I have sometimes been known to say bitchy things in the heat of the moment...and will often use passivie-aggressive sarcasm after the fight is over if I still have some lingering anger that is pushing to be expressed. And then there is the standby of writing a super nasty email note...which should probably never be sent but sometimes is! Oh and of course, I will call everyone I know and tell them about how mad am I...and heaven forbid they don't totally take my side 100%!!!

And the other answers!

I handle anger MOSTLY: I think I start as anyone does by NOT seeing the other person's reasoning. Then gradually ( after taking very deep breaths) I realize its better to see all sides of an argument or disagreement and before you know it anger has really gone. Sometimes disappointment sets in but now thats another question, yes?

By not getting mad!

I handle anger in different ways, but mainly I try to take the extra energy to the gym with me. Sometimes that works, sometimes it doesn't. I try not to let it get me too worked up though.

I handle different anger different ways. But if I'm angry at someone, I may stew about it for a while but sooner or later, I go to them and tell them I'm angry and what I'm angry about. Now, if the person doesn't acknowledge my anger as a real thing and takes steps to apologize for making me angry, then I'm just going to get more angry and then I just shut down. I sizzle inside until it goes away. And then whatever relationship I had for that person is diminished a little by the sizzle that took place inside me. The relationship is forever scared and will have difficulty growing. Not that it's can't grow, it will just have difficulty. Now, if the person I'm mad at does apologize for making me angry, then it might take a while, depending on the intensity of the anger, but eventually, it goes away and life can continue the way it was and my relationship with the person can continue to grow. Life goes on. For many other things I'm angry at, I pray for serenity for the things I can not change and I pray for patience to get me through whatever it is that is making me angry. I leave a lot of that in God's hands.

My funny answer- I try to keep my distance from her!! But seriously, I turn into a total jack ass a complete fouled mouthed, Veins bulging out of my face moron. After 40 years of life I have finally realized what a waste of energy that is. The last time I was angry I took all the energy and cleaned my kitchen till 2 am. I woke up the next day and instead of broken hand I had a clean kitchen and a great feeling about taking negative energy and turning it into a positive. If only I had learned this in my younger years life would have been easier and cleaner!!

if its someone elses anger..depending on who it is,ieither laugh(quietly),or i try to calm them down andtalk it out.if its my own anger i usually try to calmmyself a bit before i talk about it...learning fromthe past i tend to say "very bitchy things" if i donthave a chance to relax first.

By getting mad and kicking ass.

Not well. I usually try to swallow it, but that rarely works. So I endup saying something mean and giving the cold shoulder -- and all toooften I do this to someone other than the one who pissed me off in thefirst place. Yeah, me and anger are not good friends.

Like an adult. I get pissed off right back.

Call me an idealist, but i still abide by the bundle-it-up-inside-and-ignore-it technique.

I generally dismiss it, as it is normally counter productive. I dismiss it by focusing on what is important to me: God and family, all else has little effect on my well being.